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How My Vocal Journey Shapes a Safe, Supportive Singing Coaching Experience for My Students

Writer's picturePamela Song

Start Listening to Yourself More

Updated: Oct 11, 2021

Affirmation Introductions- Read this if this is your first time to clarify the intentions of why we want to implement affirmations to better our vocal ability. To do anything well, your mind has to be in it.


Mondays are tough but it is also a significant start of a new beginning. We can choose to start well or drag our feet into another week. That decision sets your mind on a certain course. The most rational thing to assure yourself a good week would be to see yourself, affirm yourself, celebrate yourself. Mel Robbin reminds us, for those who are stuck, we tend to withhold the affirmation, celebration until we accomplish worthy of.


Understanding that the order in which we think is necessary only adds to the dread and negativity to the process of getting to our goal. Suppose we flipped the order of that process and become aware that we need to provide ourselves with the support, celebrate the small victories and acknowledgement in order to hit that number on the scale.


This simple flip empowers and equips you to face whatever obstacle coming your way with built-in confidence that you have worked on, empowers you to do the things that might even scare you. Why wouldn't you want that? Start your week by doing something that serves you.


These vocal Affirmations will be rolled out weekly, easy for you to pick and choose. Commit to it at least for 30 days. You will feel an instant change in your mood, the way your self-talk, the way you perceive yourself and respect yourself.


It will feel weird at first but don't worry, I got you. Focus on the bigger picture and sooner or later you will find yourself enjoying the obstacles coming your way. Let's empower our voice!


 


Today's affirmation tackles a very difficult subject of how we accept ourselves. Despite the deep connection between the body and voice, many of us struggle with the sound of our own voice. Until we allow ourselves to hear our own voice, this deep connection cannot take root.


There is a sense of comfortability when it comes to hearing your voice. Here are a few reasons why we cringe. Our voice reveals much more than a person would want to your mental state, emotions, values, beliefs and thoughts.


People react to this in a few ways.

  • Avoidance + Take control of situations and position themselves in situations where they never have to use their voice. Some situations can't be avoided. + Think that if they can avoid using their voice then they don't have to deal with it - Have a mini anxiety attack when they are put on the spot - Have no control over voice and emotions tends to be all over the place - Feel like crap after being forced to - Uses that experience to reinforce why you don't like your voice - Pushing you further away from ever wanting to do anything with it

  • Altering + Able to communicate their feelings about your voice openly + Tend to manage other people's expectations by speaking lowly about their voice - Reflect certain limiting beliefs about their voice when they already feel vulnerable - Reinforcing the worst-case-scenario from happening - Setting themselves up for failure even before they can give it their best shot

  • Acceptance & Adapting + Understand that this is how their voice sounds like, changing their standards and expectations + Seek a mentor to understand their voice + Practice positive self-talk & thought stopping + Utilise and maximise voice's strengths and weakness + Use affirmations to empower their process + Create a plan or measurable visual to work on things that need improvement + Takes every opportunity that uses the voice to improve looking at the bigger picture- their vocal destination + Moving forward and learning how to control their voice - Self-discipline in keeping the end in mind - Consistency is hard when you are in it alone, a coach will help you focus on what you need to while the coach can take care of the planning as they are the experts and know the shortest and most effortless way to your destination

Let's identify our behaviour patterns. Look through this list of coping mechanisms and ask yourself which one would serve you the best? It starts from within. Your inner voice controls your actions and behaviour.




When you begin to affirm yourself, envision the best version of yourself.

  1. How do you feel when you are that best version of yourself?

  2. What are the thoughts you would think about if you were the best version of yourself?

  3. Comparing the best version and your current state, what are the steps necessary to move closer to your goal?

 

End of the Week Question

If you were an older version of yourself and you met yourself now saying the inner thoughts you have right now, would you feel concerned or happy for the younger you?



Reflections 01

What did I learn today?

  • What stood out to you?

  • In what amount of importance should this topic be prioritised?

  • What are you struggling with?

02

What did I unlearn today?

  • Any bad habits you might know you have?

  • Any new goal that emerged because of what you have unlearned?

  • Any false belief in yourself or your abilities that is holding you back from achieving vocal freedom?

03

Upon reflection, is there anything I can do differently with my practices?

  • Is there anything I can do differently with my practices?

  • Is there even practice happening?

  • There is work to be done in singing and it reflects in your performance

  • The confidence comes from being sure of your own abilities to do something you have done 1000 times over a long period of time

04

Moving forward, what should I do differently?

  • What should I do differently?

  • Articulate it, if you can then you are already halfway there!

  • What is left for you is to solidify the "WHY?" behind it

  • Make sure it is important enough so that action can take place

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